How to attract the right people around you
How to attract the right people around you
The people that make up our social circle, and more generally the people you regularly frequent, have a huge influence on us. Attracting the right people is a real lever on different plan for our lives.
It is therefore essential, if not vital, to learn to surround themselves in order to achieve a higher level of happiness.
I am pleased today to welcome Hervé Lero, blog Changeons.fr , that will give us in this article to learn ways to attract the right people around you.
1 / Do sort out your current friendships
Some old friendships or other newer are not healthy friendships.
Indeed, without you knowing, some of your current friends might be harmful to your happiness and your fulfillment.
How is this possible ? Well, simply because for a friendship is healthy and beneficial to both people, it needs to be of common values and desires.
Ask yourself if your current friends share your important values. If they share your vision of life, of the future.
For example, if you are surrounded by negative people who tell you that it is the crisis that we should take any risk and accept a food work, get much less likely to start the business of your dreams if you are surrounded by entrepreneurs or people who encourage you and who see the world as a space of creation and freedom.
If you dream to see the world and travel, and all your pals are home-loving and want to see you, if that is their apartment or always the same bar around the corner, you will have many fewer opportunities to travel if you surround yourself with people who make 5-10 trips per year, who know good deals that will give you desire to follow them.
So try to find people in your circle who shoot you down. Choose to see less, see more and those who have a more positive impact on you.
2 / To meet your friends (or spouse) of your dreams, live the life of your dreams.
If you want to become world champion in archery Pony for example, and you would like to have friends who help you in this goal and instead understand that you make fun of your passion, and although you'll have to engage movement.
Sign up for a shooting club archery or pony to start. You shall make dating people who share some of your aspirations.
Starts the first piece of gear to unlock a host of opportunities.
If you do not do this first step, you will have very few chances to stumble upon someone who shares your passion or desire.
Begins to live the life of your dreams, even your modest beginner level, to start the process.
Whatever your dreams or your passions, begins to take a step in that direction to meet people who, like you, love this activity.
You will draw and another up.
And that's true for all characteristics you seek. If you want to become a musician, sportsman, write a book, make a blog, learn origami or learn Japanese to live in Tokyo, you can find a first step in this direction to engage the machine and enter the world of your dreams, and attract around you people who share at least part of that dream.
3 / Contact people that inspire you
You can also if you wish to contact the people who inspire you, who have already achieved what you want to accomplish: the people you serve as mentor, role model. It can be an artist, a blogger, a writer, or even a stranger but her ability or outstanding quality.
It is complementary with the dating step 2.
This step is optional, but could really accelerate your progress and put your life plans on track.
4 / Learn to transform the penalty
It's good to get a penalty. But the aim is to transform, to score a goal.
Many people (myself included for years) come to get the penalty, but do not put in the background. And therefore get no concrete results.
Get the penile, that's what I've said above: start the movement to meet people living the life of his dreams.
The transform is to create true friendships from previous encounters that will create you a multitude of opportunities to live your dreams and meet other great people.
And to transform it, there is a recipe (or so):
Take the lead and ask the coordinates of the other.
It's simple, but it is very often at the stage of friendly discussion, a good time and finally we dare not ask the other contact information for the person reviewing.
It must become an automatism: a cool meeting (the penalty) is converted by obtaining the coordinates of the other (make the score). It will seem strange perhaps the first time, but you will see that it will soon become natural, and it will open you an incredible amount of doors.
5 / Makes you want to join you
Once you got the coordinates (facebook, telephone, telegraph for less modern), you can quickly propose an output or a fun activity to transform this brief encounter into something more solid.
It could be related to the activity where you met, or related to a part of your discussion.
Uses a positive vocabulary that makes you want to follow you. If the person has just so much the better if it does not come so much the worse, at least you have tried and you will have no regrets!
By doing this, you will quickly increase the number of quality friends around you.
This results in a chain that you can learn to master: meet people who share your values and passion, take contact information, quickly offer a nice outing.
By doing this you can create yourself a good social circle in just weeks. Even if you are shy, that you lack confidence in you, or if you just moved to a new city where you do not know anyone. You can you easily create a situation of abundance in friendship.
This is to everyone to have a social circle that stimulates us. It is a step towards happiness, by becoming a player in his own life.
If the subject interests you, I invite you to read my article: Stop being a victim.
I hope this article will help you improve your social life and feel better in your life with others, that's all the harm I wish you!
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